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How to never run out of things to say - keep a conversation flowing

How to the conversation flowing with anyone
Today we are going to be talking about something that I am sure a lot you guys have problems with let me ask you a question have you ever had a hard time coming up with things to talk about your brain ever just freeze and you end up with a long awkward silence well today I am going to be sharing with you four extremely powerful topics that you can just talk about with anyone learning and using these four topics will allow you to build large amount of rapport with just about anyone and will also allow you to create long lasting friendships

An easy way to remember these four is through an acronym called Ford 

1. Family
Everyone has some sort of family they are integral to our lives they are the first people that we get to know and for that reason, we hold a special place in our hearts for them studies have found time and time again that when people share family related matters with strangers they feel significantly closer to them afterwards now the main problem with speaking about family is that it can sometimes come off very strong if you asked someone about their family up-front.
 
What you need to do is instead branch the conversation in a way so that the topic of family naturally pops up here's two ways to go about this:

The first is talking about your family first let's say for example you're at a party and you are talking with some girl and you notice there's a very loud excited guy on the dance floor you could say something like this you see that guy over there he really reminds me of my elder brother who is always energetic and not afraid to let loose I feel like older siblings are always like that do you have any siblings by saying something like this you direct the conversation towards family and you also make the initiative to open up first this gives her an opportunity to talk about her siblings without having her guard up if she doesn't have any siblings you could say something along the lines of
ooohh you wish you ever had one again the conversation is redirected towards family in the transition it seems smooth

Now the second way to get someone to talk about their family is by using what are called non sequiturs basically the assumptions you make about someone for example you meet someone new at the bar you can say something like, you know, you look like you come from a big family.


Non sequiturs like this accomplish two things
 1 they create a sense of curiosity
Leading to questions like hhmm why do you think I come from a big family

2 Causes a listener to correct your statement
Maybe they don't come from a big family and they start talking about it. Maybe they do come from a big family and they go into details about it


2. Occupation

They say that 45% of our lives are spent on our occupation, whether it be at school, or at work
It's definitely a big part of our lives speaking about someone's occupation is actually very common it's considered surface level conversation. You have probably heard lines like what's your major? 
 Dozens of times before.

The key to speaking about occupation is not dwell on this surface level questions and instead jump quickly into deeper conversations. For example you're on a date and you ask her what she does for a living and she says " I am a school teacher" alot of people make the following mistake they go "okay what subject do you teach?"  " okay what school do you teach at?"  " Okay how old are the kids you teach".

When you question upon question you enter into interview mode and it's very uncomfortable for the listener what you want to do instead is to add a comment before asking another question for example let's say she says " oohh I am a teacher ". You could say something along the lines of " Wow you know when I was younger I always wanted to be a teacher" there is something about inspiring about others that's very full filling.

By saying something like this you're adding a little bit about what you feel about her occupation before asking the next question this leads to significantly deeper topics than " oh what school do you work at?". When meeting a stranger talking about occupation first is usually the best bet this is because out of the four topics occupation is talked about the most they feel extremely comfortable talking about it


3. Recreation

Everyone has some sort of recreation activity it could be an interest or a hobby sometimes it even something that they're very passionate about similar to talking about occupation you want to ask surface level questions while you are adding comments in between an easy way to lead a conversation into talking about recreation is by simply asking " what do you like to do ", Yes I know it's cliche, but works very well.

Recreation can sometimes be a little bit harder to talk about than occupation because often times you will meet someone who likes to do something you know nothing about. Don't worry, because in these cases all you have to do is to approach the conversation with the following mentality "why is this activity so important for him or her?"  Let's say for example you meet someone who tells you
 they like rock climbing and you have never done it before you can say something like " ohh that's cool , I always thought rock climbing was an awesome sport"  why do you like it so much Questions like these really make the other person feel like they're being listened to. They also allow the other person to really dive deep and explain to you why they enjoy their recreation activity as much as they do.

4. Dreams

Without a dout, this is the most powerful topic you can talk to someone about everyone has a dream that they are pursuing or wish they could be pursuing and this topic is especially powerful now days because the average person doesn't get to pursue their dreams often times it's because they have very little support found in our society most people are told to get conventional jobs interest of pursuing their passion by everyone around them including their parents and friends so if you step in and show that you are supportive of they begin to think very fondly of you dreams are oftentimes the hardest things to get people to open about and that's why it's the last of the four topics I like to bring up with someone you want to make sure that you have built a sufficient amount rapport before leading the conversation towards dreams in order to get truly meaningful responses. 

So I'll share with you two tricks to redirect the conversation towards dreams

1 sometimes you'll get an idea of what a person's dream is , talking about their recreation activity if they mentioned that they liked to draw their dream might be to become an artist one day so the first trick is to use this information and make a guess so for the person who likes to draw you might ask " have you ever thought becoming an artist one day

" and you can see this can be easily lead to deeper conversations

2 the second way is my favorite way to get someone to open up on their dreams is to talk about the bigger picture now what does that mean ? Well sometimes I'll be on a date and I will be walking with a girl through a Park and look up at the sky and say just look up their, the universe is so vast it's so big. I feel like our have more meaning than just working 9 to 5 do you ever dream of archiving something bigger than what you are doing right now it redirects the conversation to dreams I also like to ask questions like " what do you want to do before you die?" I like to relevant to the things around me. Subscribe and share on Facebook

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